Back to School

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32).

It was the first day of Kindergarten get-to-know-you camp.  We had been talking about Kindergarten and I thought my little guy was going to take it pretty well.  But, when the teacher said, “Okay kids, lets go into class”,  my son took his hat off and threw it on the ground. Then, his backpack went flying.  As the class left, I tried to get him to go, but he stood there with his arms crossed.  I told him I was going to count to 3 and that he’d better go.

That didn’t work.

I then walked towards the classroom, but he didn’t follow, nor did he budge.  The more my anger grew, the more stubborn he became.  I could feel everyone looking at me.  My friend came by and gave me a big hug and then another friend came and gave me a big hug, too.  They could feel my pain and they were there for me if I needed anything.

It then dawned on me.  My little guy didn’t need me to be angry, he needed my love and patience.  I dropped to my knees and gave him a big hug and told him I loved him.  I reached deep down in his back pack where I had hid his favorite stuffed animal and asked if he would like to hold it.  He nodded his head yes.  Then I asked him if he would like me to walk in with him.  Another nod.  That got him moving.

How do you handle someone who is stubborn with you or someone who has just hurt you?  Do you respond with anger to someone who just made you angry? Are you in a custody battle where anger is the norm?

In Psalm 86:15 it says, But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.

To be compassionate and gracious is to be kind, loving and warmhearted.  Throughout the bible, Jesus is described as being gracious and compassionate to so many people.  He is slow to anger and is a loving God.  He calls us to do the same.

 Because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires (James 1:20).

School is starting soon and the kids may have a multitude of emotions going on.  I am reminding myself to be patient.  They may come off being angry and I will need to be patient.  They may be scared and I will need to be patient.  This is the same when someone is angry with me, they may have stressors at home or at the office and I must remain patient.

A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel(Proverbs 15:18).

May God bless you all with an abundance of love and patience as you head into the new school year.

Dear Lord,

I pray that you give me patience with my kids.  Help me understand what they are going through.  Help me to have love in my heart for those that lash out at me.  I pray that love is in my heart for my ex-spouse and know that we are all children of God.  You are a loving God and I am so thankful for the grace you have shown me.  Please protect my children and family as we begin the new school year.

In Your Holy Name,  Amen.

 

Further Reading:

Surviving in an Angry World, http://www.intouch.org/you/surviving-in-an-angry-world

Dr. Charles Stanley talks about how anger affects our health.

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Comments

  1. Shannon Tibbits says:

    Jo,
    I love how you share real life realatable examples in your blogs.
    Have you ever read the book Crucial Conversations? Its an awesome book that really assists you with conflict and how to handle difficult situations . We train our peeps on it.
    Keep up the great work girlie!
    Shannon

  2. Therese Tibbits says:

    Really great story and great message! You have a gift for showing with your stories. :) Thanks…

  3. Hi Teri!
    I’m glad you liked it. Thank you for your comment!
    Mary Jo

  4. Hi Mary Jo,
    Thank God for his forgiveness. When I think back on all the times that my kids needed love and patience from me and got something very different, I am very ashamed. Slowly I learned how to look at the unspoken feelings behind my son’s actions, and realized that if I were not helping, supporting, and loving him through those tough moments, who would be? I learned to care about what he needed and not what other people thought of his behavior (and my reaction to it) ! And I know now that it’s ok if your 3 year old wants to watch their kiddie class instead of participate and not stress over it. I hope to be a much wiser grandmother than I was mother, and I trust that God will honor that desire. Keep up the great articles…love how you are so authentic and kind!

    • Hi Kathy,
      Thank you for your honesty and great insight. I love what you said, “if you were not supporting and loving him, who would be?” You are a wonderful mother who loves her children. Thank you for your comment.

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