The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry, and filled with unfailing love.  Psalm 103:8


Have you ever felt such anger you thought you were going to lose it right here, right now?

I learned what anger was after I got divorced.  I had never been so angry and I didn’t know what to do with it.  When I would receive a court order in the mail, it would trigger this rage that would start at my toes and work its way up to my mouth, which would spew horrible things.  I would be angry at everyone in my path.

I used to react immediately to anger.  I would say and do things I would regret later.  I used to scream so loud.  I’m sure it even scared the little bugs outside.

One day I looked in the mirror and couldn’t believe what I saw.  I looked so worn out, the anger was killing me.  I knew I had to change something.  I came up with a system to help me deal with the anger (that’s the engineer in me).

I put my anger on a shelf.  In my mind, I saw my self with a box, which held my anger.  I took this box and put it on a shelf.  I told myself I will reopen the box one week later.

After I put the box on the shelf, I get on my knees and tell the Lord how angry I am.  I ask Him to take that box away for me, unless He wants me to do something with it.  I ask God if I need to address this issue with the person that made me angry. If so, by the time I talk to the person I am cooled off enough to talk rationally.

I ask God to give me the words He would want me to use.  I ask Him to help me confront and communicate in a loving way.  Then, I wait for an answer.  You may hear an answer in something you read or through another person.

He will answer you with the direction you should go.


Dear Lord,

I know anger is a normal part of life.  Please help me deal with all my anger.  Help me to work with you on my anger.  Show me the right time to walk away and the right time to confront.  In Your Love, Amen




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  1. Anger tells us something is wrong. I pray to understand this feeling and how best to use this energy within me. The worst thing you can do is stuff that anger. Anger is like a strong muscle, left unused will get flabby and be extra weight to carry around. Learning how to stear ones anger to creating great things is amazing. I have no scriptures to quote, but my guess is Jesus had alot of anger he felt seeing the sins of his people destroying his most precious gifts.

    • Hi Cathy,
      Thank you for your comment. I agree with you, the worst thing you can do is “stuff” your anger. If we stuff our anger and hold on to it, it could cause us to sin and that is exactly what God does not want us to do.
      James 1:20
      Because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

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