My favorite bible verse is Galations 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, …”. Ever since I started going through my divorce, this is what I wanted, especially the peace part!
When I was going through my divorce, I wanted (and needed) to get rid of my anger and to learn how to communicate better. I desperately needed to figure out how to be “OK” being single and learn how to deal with my loneliness and sadness. I wanted to move on and be blessed with the fruit of the Spirit. Most of all, I wanted to live a peaceful life.
When talking to people about the divorce recovery class, I often hear, “I have been divorced for X number of years and know I probably should go through divorce recovery because I am still angry at my ex-spouse and I have a tough time with forgiveness.” I then ask if they have dealt with the divorce by going to a counselor or a divorce recovery group. Usually the answer is no or if the answer is yes, they still feel angry or sad. Often people don’t think they need help. I was in that category for two years.
According to the magazine, Psychology Today (Mark Banschick, M.D. February 6, 2012) 67% of second marriages and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. Yikes! These are alarming statistics that should make a person want to go through divorce recovery. According to Psychologist Thomas Whiteman, (co-author of Starting Over with Randy Peterson, Pinon Press 2001), forgiveness is releasing animosity toward the ex-spouse and establishing new relationships with healthy patterns and effective boundaries. He states that a support group that can help with forgiveness is invaluable. He said, INVALUABLE! I totally agree, Dr. Whiteman! Divorce Recovery changed my life and I want the same for you!
So, who should go through divorce recovery class? Anyone who has gone through or is currently going through a divorce will find a divorce recovery class very beneficial. Also, anyone who is hurting from the break-up of a relationship, even though they never married, will find the class helpful. It doesn’t matter if you are going through the break-up or if you’ve been divorced for 20 years. If you are still angry, haven’t forgiven, want to learn to communicate better, and meet others in the same situation this class is for you.
Most people who sign up are a little anxious the first day, but soon find out that the class is welcoming, friendly, understanding and upbeat. My passion is to lead divorce recovery so that you can move on and live a happy and peaceful life. Philosopher George Santayana stated, “Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” This class will help you look at yourself. It will help change your life around so you don’t repeat history.
The next divorce recovery class will be starting September 12th, 2016 at Joy! Lutheran in Gurnee, IL. May God bless you on your journey to living the life God has meant for you to live.